I had one of those defeating weekends and ate way too much due to a need to comfort myself. I will be the first to state that I’m a little sensitive about being over weight. A fact that I’m trying to fix both physically and mentally. In all actuality, I find that I’m more sensitive to it now that I’m on WW’s, than when I wasn’t.
I know I shouldn’t let what others say get to me, most of the time the person is just ignorant of what they’re saying or how it comes across. Essentially, we spent the weekend out of town again. I brought along my usual bag of groceries because I’m uncertain what will be available for me to eat. I don’t want to be caught with the munchies and nothing but high caloric foods around. So the first words out of this person’s mouth was “Got your bag of WW Crap? Er, I mean stuff.”
Now I may be super sensitive but this really hurt my feelings. I think I’m a little more sensitive in nature around this person anyway and it just got to me. I felt like, okay, here we go…
In the past this person has allotted to other people’s weight issues and is very critical of how other’s appear. Of course, he has no concept of a weight struggle, he’s 6′3,” 165 lbs, with an amazing metabolism. The man can eat whatever he chooses. Here’s the thing… I don’t have that particular genetic blessing & it takes work, real work for me to try to be healthier.
The rest of my family rallied around me and told me not to let him pick on me. The thing is he is family so I can’t avoid him, I am not one for confrontation, and I hate to make waves when it comes to this person. It’s one of those things that if I can just duck dive (surfing term - see photo’s at the top), the waves will just crash over my back, and all will be smooth again.
The problem is that on the exterior I accomplish the duck dive but gulp in huge amounts of water on the way down, making it a very unsuccessful dive. I don’t know why but I continue to hold the hurt on the inside, despite my outward appearance of calmness. I need to learn to shut my mouth (or my mind in this case) and do the duck dive successfully. Practice, practice, practice - I have a feeling if I don’t get it under control now it’ll just get worse over the years!
How do you guys deal with this kind of verbal sabotage?
I understand how you feel. When I began 6/4/07 my 1st week i lost 1.6lbs…I was so happy. my b-friend told me “that is water weight, but that is good”…when i told my mother what he said she said “so, what if it is water weight”…geez i thought she does not get it. I DON’T CARE WHAT KIND OF WEIGHT IT WAS I WAS GLAD IT WAS GONE. I decided I would no longer tell them anything, but when i hit 18lbs now all of a sudden he is calling me skinny (in support) and she (lives in another state, so she does not see me often) has stopped asking me when i tell her what I have eaten “is that on your plan”…boy that pisses me off. I don’t mind telling people, but i don’t want them counting points for me. People can be insensitive, but you have to keep your eye on the prize. the ladies on my job were teasing me about my food…now that they see results I am the go to person b/c 1.6 became 3.6 etc to 18lbs and that 18 lbs seems to given me credibility. so, my last thought on the matter…mr 6′3 165…way to skinny and truth be told…his bmi is 2 lbs from being under weight, so he might want to consider that…(check it out http://www.bariatricedge.com/dtcf/pages/bmi_calculator.htm?WT.srch=1) his body may burn fat fast, but if he does not eat healthy food he could end up with High blood pressure or high cholesterol. You are doing this for you and that is all you need to know. You are not alone.
August 27, 2007 @ 3:55 pmIt would have hurt my feelings too…. But stupid people’s comments aside you ARE doing such GOOD things for your health. And that food in question is nourishing you in that direction.
And if stupid person doesn’t get that, then he can choke on a doughnut.
August 28, 2007 @ 1:33 am